Don’t be offended

Ever met a germaphobe? Me either. I’ve heard of them though and I get what the term means. Pretty much scared shitless of germs.

I think in today’s world–at least today’s America (United States of America), being a germaphobe and being politically correct sure as hell do a lot of flirting.

People are to the point where they’re afraid to talk because they may offend someone. It’s sickening really. I think if someone says something and you feel offended by it, deep inside of your person you find truth in what they said.

It’s simple really: if you don’t like the way someone talks you shouldn’t worry about changing them; you should just focus on what you can control–you. Remove yourself from the situation.

I think today people are so caught up on “fixing” other people and changing how others are that it’s become an all out war. A free for all. Change everything that makes you upset or uncomfortable. Sometimes the best thing to do is change your surroundings by leaving.

To ask someone to change how they live to accommodate the way you live is a self defeating cause. You’re asking someone to accept your way of life and at the same time you’re not accepting theirs.

We don’t have to like each other to work together. We just have to have common goals. Let’s focus more on the goals and less on the bullshit. Let’s grow a little testicular fortitude and not be offended by everything. Seriously your being offended offends me.

Like how I did that? Pretty witty I know. I’m pretty awesome.

Positive vibes for positive minds.

Love y’all.

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Life reflections

Wherever you go—there you are. That means that it doesn’t matter if you change cities, change jobs, change friends. If you don’t change YOU, you’ll just attract the same things all over again. You have to change your mind to change your life.

People every where stop talking to certain people, or move out of dead end towns every day. All with the hopes that they can stay out of trouble or finally be successful. Some of these people do exactly what they set out to do–many don’t.

What determines the difference? Character. Those who succeed leave the negativity behind. Those who don’t carry it around everywhere they go. They can never escape it because it is within them. We attract who we are.

“You cannot have a negative mindset and live a positive life.”

Who you are at your core is the seed that you plant everywhere you go with every relationship you make. All “true” change starts within us. We have to start with the person in the mirror. You have to change your mind to change your life.

“The unexamined thought is not worth thinking”.

Positive vibes for positive minds.

Love y’all.

The conflict of belonging

“there is no right and wrong, just true and false.”

Conflict comes from forcing oneself into something that isn’t compatible with our true self. Forcing ourselves into societal accepted norms. Into a religion etc… Don’t look for a group to belong to and then adjust to what that group wants you to be. Find who you are and then the right group that is compatible with your true self will find you. There is no right or wrong just true and false.

The worst part about joining a group that isn’t compatible with your true self, is that you end up jeopardizing the integrity of the group. E.g. a person who decides to be a Christian who knows they still plan to do unchristian like things, only ends up portraying a bad image of the group.

If you know you’re not cut out for something, don’t force it. Your tribe will come. It’ll be natural. You won’t have to adjust to the group because the people in the group will be just–like–you.

Don’t be pressured into groups and moral standards by the masses. Be true to the most important person in your life. YOU.

“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself”. –Shannon L. Alder

Positive vibes for positive minds.

Love you all.

Provocative thought?

The only things in life that matter are the things that matter to you. Ever thought about that?

In the end it’s all relative to your goals. Everything in life is a matter of choice. You choose what’s important to you. If being fit isn’t a goal of yours then working out and eating healthy probably aren’t very high on your list of priorities.

Some people say we “need” to do this, or we “need” to do that. Really, we don’t “need” to do anything. Hell you don’t even need to breathe if you don’t want to. Even life is a choice.

At the end of the day you’re either going to be closer or farther away from your goals. It is all subject to the choices you make throughout the day.

Be the captain of your own destiny and be happy. You don’t need to do anything, you choose to do it. I pray that you will choose to be free from people who are afraid to live and will do those things that make you happy; like putting ketchup on eggs, or pineapple on pizza. Go crazy–why not?

“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t–you’re right”. –some person

Positive vibes for positive minds

Love y’all.

People and Mosquitos

The evil neighborhood bbq pest. Have you ever sat down and wondered what purpose mosquitos serve in the grand scheme of things? Like, am I missing something? Are mosquitos secretly the key to life? Can’t be. Ridiculous. Further, what the hell do mosquitos have to do with this blog?

Think again about your bbq. Who’s there? Who are the people that surround you? Now ask yourself: what purpose does this person serve in my life? More importantly: what purpose do I serve in theirs? The important thing to note here is that in life people are either contributing or taking away from each other’s lives. Remove those who aren’t contributing to yours and remove yourself from the lives of those to whom you don’t contribute. These are the simple mathematics of a happy productive life.

In life everything serves a purpose–except mosquitos, those just suck. Pun intended. People who only take away from your life are just mosquitos. Repel them.

“Birds of a feather flock together”. –someone, I’m sure of it.

Positive vibes for positive minds.

P.S. –Don’t act like you weren’t impressed about the whole mosquitos thing.

Love y’all.

Value of love

What do you love? Have you ever paid attention to what we attach the word love to? “I love pizza” is as common to hear as is “I love my mom”. That’s crazy!

When we attach the word love to ordinary things we’re making love ordinary. Love is extraordinary! It’s disrespectful to say that you love pizza and then turn around and say you love your mom. Although pizza is pretty damn good. Still! You’re pretty much putting those two on the same level. Do you “really” love pizza? Or do you just really enjoy eating pizza? Depends who’s pizza I guess right?

Using love so lightly takes away the value of the word. It doesn’t have the same affect anymore. If we used love appropriately it would be something special. It would have the affect that love is supposed to have; making someone feel special. I just don’t get that vibe when someone says they love a pair of underwear and then turn around and say they love me. Thank you? Think of it like a seating arrangement for a party. Everything you say you love will be sitting next to each other at the same table. Eh, not so bad I guess? Depending on who’s pizza and who’s underwear I suppose? I hope they’re nice.

“Most of all let love guide your life”–the Bible

Positive vibes for positive minds

Love y’all (and pizza–I kid)

The frenemy TRY

Try: popularity top 30% of words as of May 27, 2018 Merriam-Webster.

To make an attempt

To put to test or trial

E.g. “I will try to call you later”

Let’s begin. The definition of try almost makes it seem like a noble endeavor. Makes the word try look like something we should all be proud of. Honestly–and as always only my opinion; I think this is the most disgusting, passive self-sabotaging word known to man. Try is an excuse. A substitute for “I won’t”, or “I don’t want to.” It’s a way of avoiding accountability. I think that people use the word try with good intentions though. It’s not a word that people generally associate as negative. In fact if we went out and asked people to categorize the word try as positive or negative most would probably say it’s positive. Would you?

What does try imply? When you use the word try how does it make you feel? Do you feel a rush of energy and fire burn within you? Does it make you feel unstoppable? When I use (or used to use) the word try, it made me feel heavy. Lazy. Unmotivated and burdened. I wanted to be done with whatever was being asked of me so I would say “I’ll try” to get whoever I was talking to off of my back. Because who could be mad at us for trying right? We! We need to be mad at ourselves if we ever “try.” First because we’re probably brushing off whatever was just asked of us. Second, because it implies failure. I think the word try implies failure because we’re already unsure of whether we can or can’t do something. “I’m going to try to go on a diet.” “I’m going to try and stop cursing.” I’m going to try and stop smoking.” Heard any of these before? How do you feel when someone says things like this? Does it inspire confidence? Does it make you think that there is a good chance it’s going to happen? What does it make you think? Ever hear a parent tell a child “I’ll try to buy you that toy.” Or “I’ll try to take you to the store?” That’s usually the parents way of saying no without saying no. Don’t take my word for it though. If you disagree that the word try is negative observe a child’s expression when their parent tells them “they’ll try” and you tell me if it was a positive or negative one?

Try is a cancer that is disguised as a medicine. We think that we’re helping ourselves when we use it. Instead we’re slowly killing our selves and our dreams. Try is an enemy disguised as our friend who slowly undermines our efforts to succeed. Try is the jealous coworker who acts real friendly toward you and then goes and bad mouths you to your boss. We need to be at war with the word try. How do you wage war with a bad habit? You can’t just stop a bad habit ( more on this later.) You eliminate bad habits by replacing them with new/good ones. Do your best. It’s much better than trying. Say them both: “I’ll do my best”, and “I’ll try.” Which one made you feel better? Do this and in a life full of people who are “trying” you’ll be part of the few who are “doing.”

I’ll leave you with this last example to really let the ugliness of the word try sink in: if someone was punching you on the face repeatedly–would you want them to “try” and stop or would you just want them to stop?

“Do or do not–there is no try.” –Yoda

Positive vibes for positive minds.

Love y’all.