The frenemy TRY

Try: popularity top 30% of words as of May 27, 2018 Merriam-Webster.

To make an attempt

To put to test or trial

E.g. “I will try to call you later”

Let’s begin. The definition of try almost makes it seem like a noble endeavor. Makes the word try look like something we should all be proud of. Honestly–and as always only my opinion; I think this is the most disgusting, passive self-sabotaging word known to man. Try is an excuse. A substitute for “I won’t”, or “I don’t want to.” It’s a way of avoiding accountability. I think that people use the word try with good intentions though. It’s not a word that people generally associate as negative. In fact if we went out and asked people to categorize the word try as positive or negative most would probably say it’s positive. Would you?

What does try imply? When you use the word try how does it make you feel? Do you feel a rush of energy and fire burn within you? Does it make you feel unstoppable? When I use (or used to use) the word try, it made me feel heavy. Lazy. Unmotivated and burdened. I wanted to be done with whatever was being asked of me so I would say “I’ll try” to get whoever I was talking to off of my back. Because who could be mad at us for trying right? We! We need to be mad at ourselves if we ever “try.” First because we’re probably brushing off whatever was just asked of us. Second, because it implies failure. I think the word try implies failure because we’re already unsure of whether we can or can’t do something. “I’m going to try to go on a diet.” “I’m going to try and stop cursing.” I’m going to try and stop smoking.” Heard any of these before? How do you feel when someone says things like this? Does it inspire confidence? Does it make you think that there is a good chance it’s going to happen? What does it make you think? Ever hear a parent tell a child “I’ll try to buy you that toy.” Or “I’ll try to take you to the store?” That’s usually the parents way of saying no without saying no. Don’t take my word for it though. If you disagree that the word try is negative observe a child’s expression when their parent tells them “they’ll try” and you tell me if it was a positive or negative one?

Try is a cancer that is disguised as a medicine. We think that we’re helping ourselves when we use it. Instead we’re slowly killing our selves and our dreams. Try is an enemy disguised as our friend who slowly undermines our efforts to succeed. Try is the jealous coworker who acts real friendly toward you and then goes and bad mouths you to your boss. We need to be at war with the word try. How do you wage war with a bad habit? You can’t just stop a bad habit ( more on this later.) You eliminate bad habits by replacing them with new/good ones. Do your best. It’s much better than trying. Say them both: “I’ll do my best”, and “I’ll try.” Which one made you feel better? Do this and in a life full of people who are “trying” you’ll be part of the few who are “doing.”

I’ll leave you with this last example to really let the ugliness of the word try sink in: if someone was punching you on the face repeatedly–would you want them to “try” and stop or would you just want them to stop?

“Do or do not–there is no try.” –Yoda

Positive vibes for positive minds.

Love y’all.

The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me! Life is after all a very wild ride. It is also a very interesting one. There are many people on life’s journey, some doing great and some doing less than great. On my journey through life in my 28 almost 29 years I have had the pleasure of experiencing both the great and the less than great aspects of life. What I have learned is that in every situation we can learn something. Everyone and everything is our teacher. There is a lesson in everything if we still our minds and focus. Another lesson I have learned in life is that it feels good to help others. It makes me feel better and it makes the people I help feel better. It brings hope that in a world where negativity seems to be the norm there are still people who want to help others for the sole purpose of feeling and delivering joy. I will admit I don’t believe in such thing as a self-less act. I do believe in productive selfishness though. That’s how I see my good deeds. They’re a win-win for everybody involved. It helps me feel better, it helps the people I help feel better and it helps all who see the good deed feel better. I think that our world pays too much attention to the negative, it is freely shared and entertained. If we lend just a little more attention to the good being done and the good that we can do, I think that if not the entire world, at least we can change our own; and that of the persons we help.

I haven’t always been such a positive person. I also haven’t always been the best person that I can be. I am a person who has made mistakes, plenty of them. I am a person who has offended and has been ofended. I haven’t always been the kindest or the happiest, but my life changed. I owe my change to the only thing that can change a person: new thoughts. The new thoughts came from my greatest teacher and the greatest I will ever have: a book. “The Prosperity Bible.” Hands down, the catalyst to my success. I know that only we can change ourselves. That only by exchanging our current thoughts with new and better thoughts can we improve and create a new life. The Prosperity Bible was my source of information to pump my mind with these new thoughts. It isn’t always everyone’s time to learn the truth, but it’s always someone’s time to learn it. When we’re ready life has a way of aligning our stars so that we are in the right place at the right time to learn what we need to learn to have the life that we want to have. This is that place. This is that time. You, me this blog, it’s all here for a reason. A reason that only you know because it’s a reason that you created. You are the master of your brain, and your brain is the master of your life. Welcome to Brain Masters where we spread wisdom and positivity to the minds that seek it. May great things come to those who search for them.

Positive vibes for positive minds.

I love you.

It is my mission to help others create a positive state of mind. After all, it takes the same amount of energy to think about something positive as it does to think about something negative. We are–in the end, the sum of all of our thoughts. Think positive.

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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