What now?

“Unhappiness isn’t a cause, it’s a result, so the question to ask yourself is: the result of what?”

The secret to getting what you want out of life

Have you ever asked yourself “what now?”

What’s next?

Ever just felt lost or like you should be doing more in life? That you should have accomplished more. If you’re at least 30 years old, I know you know what I’m talking about.

It’s almost like we turn 30 and immediately we’re gifted with lower back pain and imposter syndrome.

We (I say that generally speaking because I know somewhere out there there’s a perfectly well put together and functioning human being without lower back pain or imposter syndrome). We, start to beat ourselves up over what we’ve failed to accomplish thus far.

Just the other day I was learning about Alexander (you know? The great?) And I started to feel like I should be way farther ahead in life than I am because he (Alexander) by the time he was in his thirties had conquered so many countries and expanded an empire and, and, and…

Then I brought myself back, slowed it down a little bit and pointed out one very simple yet important detail–he was born a prince, into a kingdom.

Regardless, that’s just one of many examples of how our minds can go a little crazy and start to make us question our success, value or life choices. Could we be doing better? Probably. Have we made the best choices? Probably not. Good judgement comes from experience though, and experience comes from bad judgement.

Good judgement comes from experience though, and experience comes from bad judgement.

The real power in life (my opinion) comes from being able to look in the mirror and smile, regardless of how many times we have fallen, or how many times we have missed our goals, or not given our best. That’s power. That’s strength.

Inevitably we all eventually ask ourselves the question “what now?”

You’ve either made it to your thirties and you quite haven’t accomplished much as far as a career goes, and your dream car is so fast you haven’t been able to catch it.

or

You graduated high school, went to college, (or went straight to work) got a job and money isn’t the real issue, but now you’re wondering if this is what you want to do for the rest of your life?

We’re either chasing passion, or we’re chasing profit. If we’re lucky our profits will come from our passion. That’s how I ended up here. Writing this blog about communication.

Yes, that’s what this blog is about. Longer than my usual blogs, but it’s just flowing, one word after another.

The main point here is that, unhappiness isn’t a cause, it’s a result, so the question to ask yourself is: the result of what?

“Unhappiness isn’t a cause, it’s a result, so the question to ask yourself is: the result of what?”

What are you unhappy about?

Whatever it is, I’m going to take a lung, be bold and say that it’s confusion that’s causing the unhappiness.

Not knowing what to do or how to do “it”.

The truth of it all is that if the communication isn’t clear, the results wont be either and that’s what leads to us being unhappy, or unsatisfied with any aspect of our life.

We haven’t gotten clear about what we really want.

You don’t know what you want.

That’s it.

Figure that out and life starts happening for you and not to you.

Some people already know what they want. I do this as a profession (help people get clear (verbalize) what they want and then help them get it.

I do it with companies, families and individuals.

And it’s always the same thing–communication.

Communication is more than just what we say to others. It’s our inner dialogue, the conversations we have with ourselves. Do we hype ourselves up, or shoot ourselves down? Are we crystal clear about what we want and going to get it no matter what? Or do we easily get swayed and influenced by the people around us?

Everything rises and falls on communication, and if the vision can’t be communicated clearly the goal will for ever be elusive.

So like I’ve learned in marketing–if you can’t explain what you want to an eight year old in a way where they could explain it to another eight year old and make sense, then what you want really isn’t clear.

So besides that million dollars your thinking you want right now–what else? Or more importantly–how come?

Think of what you want, than ask yourself “how come?”

That’s the secret.

When you can answer that with clarity and confidence, that’s when you can start getting what you want in life. Cause if you can’t get clear on what you want–how will you ever have it?

Clarity is king.

Until the next time…

Seize your power!

Five steps to a happier you

1:smile
2:listen to happy music
3:take time for yourself…

https://youtu.be/n9-McXgOU8k

Hello…is this thing on!?

What a year! I’m the type that really enjoys roller coasters and I have to admit nothing has come close to the drop that 2020 had coming right out of the gates!

I imagine all of us running into 2020 with the “this is my year!” Mantra and none of us saw the cliff right over the hill!

If you’re reading this you made it though. Welcome to the next level.

This happened this year—I went to Disney for the first time and I took a picture that had some meaning to me.

I’m a deep thinker so I often think into things and look for a “lesson” in it.

On my Instagram I wrote a short post about the Play-doh company and how Play-doh the toy came to be.

Right now it’s more about Mr. Potato Head. I think about how he comes apart and can be put back together, and I can’t help but think of us as a people being a lot like a Mr. Potato Head after 2020.

It’s been a stretch and the future is fuzzy at best.

We have the ability to put ourselves back together piece by piece though, and what I think will make us stronger is the people we chose to surround ourselves with.

I hope that you’ll take me with you into the new year. I hope that I will share a message that adds value and contributes in a positive way to your life as you begin to put it back together.

I am committed to the endeavor of spreading positive vibes for positive minds!

For starters I’ve started to learn how to do better online and get the message to more people.

I made my very first YouTube video, and shared the link at the very top of this blog.

In the video I share the “5 steps to a happier you” which I’ll write out briefly here:

1. Smile: Smiling physically helps to put you in a better mental state.

2. Listen to happy music: What we listen to we think about, and what we think about influences our emotions

3. Take time for yourself: To give 100% you have to be at 100%. Take time to recharge your soul.

4. Laugh often: Laughing relaxes the whole body, boosts the immune system, releases endorphins and even burns calories

5. Be active: Emotions are just energy in motion. To change the emotion sometimes all we need to do is change the motion.

If you choose to watch it and have some feedback to offer or simply just like the video I’d be really happy to hear from you.

I hope you bring the new year in strong with a smile on your face and that what ever challenges you face—you never give them the pleasure of seeing you down.

Positive vibes, for positive minds.

Happy new year!

An invincible host 💪🏼

“…an invincible host against all difficulties.”

That’s powerful stuff. I am all for digging inside of our “self” to find the real gold. Sometimes when we start to mine for that happiness (gold) that is within us though, we have to dig through all of the ugly rocks first. All of the negative thoughts we’ve owned for so long. All of the self limiting beliefs we remind ourselves of daily.

That’s not a pretty process at first. After a little digging we start to get better at it and we eventually fall in love with the process. Personal growth and development.

Internal happiness (real happiness) is something that needs to be practiced everyday. Like an athlete practices shooting a basket or hitting a tennis ball. It’s not a one and done kind of deal. We constantly have to be cultivating that self love and self joy. We have to guard our minds against the negative thoughts and negative vibes people so freely dump on one another.

In the end though, once you do strike gold within your “self” nothing else will ever compare.

There’s gold in there. I promise. Just have to dig a little everyday.

Positive vibes for positive minds

Choose one thing daily 🧠

This almost seems so simple it’s confusing.

It’s true though. If you have to struggle for something then it’s forced, and if it’s forced it isn’t healthy.

Let me clear that up. Happiness should never have to be something we struggle for. Happiness is something all of us should carry around inside of us. I know, I know–it’s not that easy. Life isn’t all rainbows and cotton candy. It is our choice though. We give our happiness away to the things and people who frustrate us. We give our happiness away when we worry about things we can’t control.

Be frugal with your happiness. Invest it in the things that bring happiness back to you. No matter what happens in life we can always control our minds. That is the absolute only thing in life we can control absolutely.

Every time we let someone or something take that power away from us though, we are making them masters in our kingdom! The kingdom of our minds.

Choose one thing daily to be happy about. Hang onto that thing and defend it like its your life, because if you chose wisely–it is.

Wishing everyone perpetual happiness. I know it is definitely challenging and sometimes its challenging daily. Keep pushing forward though. It’s always darkest before the dawn.

Positive vibes for positive minds.

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Be happy 😃

So simple to say “if you want to be happy–be.”

How many of us for a long time didn’t know what that looked like though?

My hands up in the air!

I didn’t have a clue for the longest time what “being” looked like. I was on 100 percent react mode all of the time. I was too busy worrying about what other people were going to say about me if I was different. So I did my best to fit in.

I didn’t fit in so well though lol. We–after all–always end up being drawn to our own crowd. Truth is we are all different to different people. No one is the same to everyone. That’s the truth. Peace comes from finding acceptance on the inside though. It never really matters how much acceptance we get on the outside. If the inner self is incomplete the outer self never will be.

Courage grows where desire flows.

Sending all the positive vibes I possibly can to all of the positive minds of the world!! Keep standing out! Keep being you!

Much love.

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The strength of being vulnerable

This is a beautiful message. I think being able to show emotion in this way is one of the most challenging and courageous acts a person can do.

From experience I can say that I used to think weeping/crying was a sign of weakness. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I’ve learned over time that it takes more strength to cry than it does to fight it. Especially as men sometimes this can be even more of a challenge for us. We’re expected to be the tough ones. Don’t mistake showing emotion for being weak though. It’s not the same thing.

The power and comfort of having someone you can open up to in this way is priceless. Its good for your soul and your mental health. It helps you get rid of the negative emotions you’re carrying around, recharge your batteries and get back into the fight!

Love you all!

Do great things!
Positive vibes for positive minds.

Live on fire!

It all comes back to liking yourself. Your “self”. The inner you. I know so many of us preach that money isn’t happiness. That’s definitely not what I’m preaching! I love money! I think money is an amazing tool and more good people need to be rich!

I think what the quote is getting at is that if it doesn’t set your soul on fire it’s an empty deed and we cant get full off of empty deeds. No matter how many of them you do.

Maybe for you it’s not about money? Maybe for you it’s not about a career or settling down and having a family.

Society will say something about a persons chosen lifestyle regardless. Interesting to note though: society isn’t looking so hot itself, and like in every other aspect of life: we shouldn’t take advice from people who don’t have what we want.

In other words: let society talk. Let others judge. You make the choices that make YOU happy, because at the end of the day no matter what, no matter where, no matter who–you have to live with yourself.

Your tribe will always find you. Even people who like ketchup on their eggs have a group (wink)

P.S. I like ketchup on my eggs! and pineapple on my pizza!!

Positive vibes for positive minds!

The three key things to focus on for success

I think this is a very good way to see success. There are few things that can disrupt a person who has all three of these things.

There have been times in my past where I didn’t like myself very much. The sad part is it wasn’t always so clear. A lot of the times we may think we like ourselves, but you would question that if you saw the things we allow to happen to us.

You would question how much we like ourselves if you saw how we let people treat us. The decisions we make on a day to day basis say a lot about how we actually feel about ourselves.

Every year there are new resolutions being made. I’ve seen a lot of posts about 2020 being about loving ourselves. I pray that we all find the courage we require on a daily basis to love ourselves and to be the most important person in our lives.

Remember the airplanes: it is always advised to put your mask on first, because you can’t help anyone if you suffocate.

Same goes for the day to day grind: be sure to love yourself first, because you cannot love others if you suffocate.

Love yourself enough to start toady. I have the best intentions that this simple little post adds positive vibes to at least one person today.

Tag someone in the comments who you want to make smile.

Positive vibes for positive minds!

Thought exploration pt 2: maxing out emotions

In high school I remember we did an experiment with pancakes. The theory was that after the initial Pancake the pleasure of eating another would plateau. The pleasure would never be greater than the first pancake.

This got me thinking.

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What if emotions are like this? Cause if we think about it it’s kind of related. We get excited about food. (Ok that’s a pretty general statement. I get excited about food lol). In the end it’s still an emotion. Excitement. After a while it’s just not as exciting anymore. We reach a limit. Then after we just work to reach that limit again but never surpass it.

What about happiness? Can happiness be maxed out? Can we reach a point where we no longer get “happier” but instead just maintain an ultimate level of happiness? Or do our best to return to that ultimate state of happiness?.

Or any emotion for that matter?

Sadness? The same? Can we get to a point with ourselves where the ultimate state of sadness is only maintained but never increased?

It makes sense to me. Because emotions are chemicals. I would think like any other chemicals we feed our bodies we eventually build a tolerance.

Just something I thought about. What do you think? Leave a comment below.

Before you quit: ch. 4

I’m in Vegas!! Well kind of. I’m not where all the action is. I’m at a truck stop with a prison next door lol. Not exactly what people picture when we say “Vegas.”

So I was having a little case of the blues earlier. Had been like that for a couple of days. Maybe I’m just lonely out here lol. Don’t judge me. Anyway, I cranked up a little motivational video as I usually do on YouTube and got to working out. Both of those combined always have a way of bringing the fight back out of me.

Listening to the video and working out got the mind juices flowing. I started to think of the crazy contrast I was in the mist of. Across the parking lot from me is a hotel and casino. Less than a mile to the left of it there’s a prison. I thought wow, in one place people may just be making the decision of a lifetime, and in the other some people are paying a lifetime for a decision.

It’s crazy how close these two worlds are yet how far apart they are at the same time. I used to think about that a lot when I was gone. I used to be out on the rec yard and see cars driving by on the highway in the distance and think: those people are heading to work, to school to a friends house. Completely oblivious to the world I’m in just a few miles away. I used to think about the life going on around me and imagine everything I was going to accomplish when I got out.

I still remember the fire I had burning inside of me when I finally made it home. I had it all planned out. If nothing else is true about what they tell you in prison this for sure is: plans change. They sure as hell did.

Here I am in this parking lot covered in dirt. My truck and trailer covered in dirt and I’m feeling sad. Depressed. Whatever you want to call it. And in the mist of my workout I’m pacing back and forth to catch my breath between sets and I stop to look over at the prison.

That was a big slap to the face. Like a wake up slap. Here I am sulking, thinking about the little things troubling me and just less than a mile away there are some people who would give anything just to be able to be covered in dirt in this parking lot again even if just for a day.

I thought: really? Like what problems or troubles could you possibly have that are “real” problems? None. There is nothing happening in my life currently or ever that can really ever be a real “problem” as long as I still have a chance. That’s it. Sure some fucked up things can happen. Sure I’ll feel pain. Things may get challenging but none of those are “problems.”

We may lose people along the way. We’ll lose opportunities. But as long as we still have a chance to accomplish our dreams, we’re still living. We don’t die until we stop chasing our dreams.

To borrow the words of the incredible Les Brown from this video I just heard:

“you either fight for what you want right now, or fight for what you don’t want later–but you fight!”

So maybe it’s just me? But maybe–just maybe there’s someone out there struggling to keep it together right now. Maybe someone out there financially, emotionally or physically is fighting to keep it together and is thinking about quitting. Giving up.

DON’T!!

The fight is the only thing you have left! It’s the glue that’s holding you together. If you quit now all of the fighting, all of the struggle and pain you’ve endured will have been for nothing.

I can’t promise you it gets easier cause it sure hasn’t for me. I can’t promise you you’re going to win either. But I can guarantee that if you do quit–you lose for sure.

I pray that whoever needed to read this did. All I want for everyone else is what I want for myself. Peace of mind and success beyond measure.

Love you all.

Positive vibes for positive minds